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I hurt.  Sometimes more, sometimes less, but the last few days have been an exercise in wishing that the surgery is NOW, rather than August.  I hurt.  When it doesn't outright hurt, it aches.  I sleep by an hour here and there before the pain wakes me up, and I don't think that I'm ever getting any deep sleep.  As a result, I'm tired and cranky all the time.

I'm working on some slightly overdue invitations right now, and it's clearly the last calligraphy I'm going to be doing for quite a while.  I have very poor body mechanics, and the way I tighten up my shoulder isn't helping the ache.  So once this is done, so am I until such time post-surgery as I'm allowed to fire those muscles again.  I've hardly been prolific, but it's one thing to not wanna, and another to not be able to.  Annoying, that.

I'm also HUGELY annoyed with the way the internet is failing me.  I want to be prepared for this - I HAVE to be prepared for this, because once I come home after surgery I'm stuck with whatever I've laid in - I won't be able to drive for probably at least two month afterwards.  So I've turned to the internet.  While there are a few helpful posts, by far the vast majority fall into these categories:

Medical websites: these have two categories of information.  "Understanding your rotator cuff surgery," which gives you a small amount of anatomy and a very brief explanation of the surgery; and "Understanding your recovery" which tells you that you'll have a sling and do physical therapy.  Gee, thanks.  I knew that much already.

People posting about how it's the most pain they've ever been in, OMGOMGOMG.  Pretty self explanatory.

People posting YouTube videos about how well they feel post-surgery, and how important PT is.  Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Whatever.

People posting all about their PT - what exercises they're doing, how they're doing them, and hoping to get back to the gym as quickly as possible.

Sites that claim to offer "tips" that basically just say "you're going to need a lot of help."

None of this is useful.  I want to know things like "buy an electric toothbrush and a button hook" and "put your shampoo in a pump bottle."  I have found a very few sites that actually offer decent advice (like the afore mentioned things) but they're few and far between.  The thing that is REALLY driving me nuts is the commentary on bras.  Two really annoying things struck me that I won't be able to do - fasten a bra, and put in my contacts.  The comments on like are things like "for women who insist on maintaining their vanity," or "for women, forget your vanity.  It's no time for wearing cute underwear or bras."  Okay.  Maybe for SOME women bras are about vanity.  But for some of us they're about being pain free.  Chafing is No Fun, and I can't fathom adding another excruciating pain to the post surgical experience.

I'm just grumpy.  I was hoping for some wheat amidst the chaff.

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isabeau_lark
May. 27th, 2013 03:26 am (UTC)
Would you like me to put you in touch with someone who had the surgery last summer so you can actually ask a real person questions?
kls_eloise
May. 27th, 2013 03:38 am (UTC)
Holy crap, YES!!!!
jofglastingburi
May. 27th, 2013 02:04 pm (UTC)
Talk to Gabriella - she also had the surgery and she used to be a physical therapist so she can give you alot of helpful tips.

kls_eloise
May. 27th, 2013 02:59 pm (UTC)
Done! Clearly I should have whined here sooner...
pippagrey
May. 29th, 2013 01:41 pm (UTC)
There seem to be some reasonable suggestions on this site:
http://davidmbrownmdstl.com/Patientinformation/LivingWithOneHand.aspx

It's for folks having hand surgery, but I wouldn't think there would be that much difference between one handed and one armed for many things.

One-Handed in a Two-Handed World
The new edition comes out at the end of june, and it looks like exactly what you are looking for. You can preorder it for under $20 at Amazon. It lists shoulder surgery as one of the populations it's aimed at. The older edition is also available used for about $30 right now. Avoid the issues where people are asking $500 (?!?).


Edited at 2013-05-29 01:43 pm (UTC)
kls_eloise
May. 29th, 2013 04:48 pm (UTC)
Interesting! I'll look into that.

I'm also finding information on mastectomy websites, as many of the recovery issues are similar.
pippagrey
May. 29th, 2013 09:49 pm (UTC)
Makes sense, since they are abusing/damaging a lot of muscles attached to the shoulder.

When is the surgery? If it isn't right when school starts, I might be able to lend you a teenager for a few days to help out while Bob is at work.
kebbykate
Jun. 5th, 2013 06:13 am (UTC)
An occupational therapist may also be a very good consult, if these other options don't pan out. Maybe an OT site?
kebbykate
Jun. 5th, 2013 06:15 am (UTC)
Oh, my spouse tells me that our Rector has just had that surgery. I will endeavor to learn more. (He's actually had it done on the other shoulder a few years ago.) And his wife is a nurse, so she's good to talk to.
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